Have you ever come down with a case of F.O.M.O? Otherwise known as Fear of missing out. I use to laugh at this new trendy condition that seemed to be going around. I thought really? Who actually suffers from F.O.M.O.? I never took this made up condition seriously, that is until it hit me.
Yup I just suffered from my first case of F.O.M.O. I came down with typical symptoms of anxiety, inability to make decisions, over analyzing like crazy, and lying awake at night. So what exactly is F.O.M.O, and how do you get it? Fear of missing out occurs when you feel as though if you don’t say yes to every opportunity or invitation that comes your way that you are some how “missing out” on something really good and impact-full on your life. For instance a group of friends invites you out on a friday night. You may be feeling a bit tired and was actually planning on staying in. But when you are given this invitation you suddenly become torn. If you stay in will you miss out on a really good time? Will your friends bond without you? Or are your friends going to be mad if you don’t join them? All these thoughts are swirling through your head causing you anxiety and confusion. You finally work yourself up into such an anxious state that you decide you have to go out whether you really want to or not, for fear of what of you could be missing if you stayed in.
F.O.M.O. can occur in a variety of situations. It could be an opportunity to travel that was suddenly presented to you. Or perhaps a seminar/ class to attend. It even occurs online in the form of coaching and programs. Today more then ever we are bombarded with the latest online course or program that you must sign up for within the next 72 hours if you want to increase your abundance, enhance your relationships, lose weight, etc…..(I could go on and on and on, but you get the picture). It occurs when someone presents an opportunity to you that you weren’t necessarily looking for, but now that you are aware of it you feel like you need it. All of this causes F.O.M.O.
While I was in graduate school I was so busy that I never experienced this syndrome. I never had extra time on my hands to go out with friends, attend a seminar, or sign up for a course. So whenever I was presented with an opportunity it was easy for me to say no. But since I have finished school and I am running my own business I find myself with a lot more time on my hands. I control my own schedule now so technically I can go out whenever I want, travel, or devote some time to a course. So now I find myself having to consider every opportunity that comes my way, and I discovered that F.O.M.O. is no joke! It causes some serious anxiety!
Most recently I was presented with an opportunity to go on a trip with some friends. Now this trip would be a lot of fun no doubt. I would make some really wonderful memories, but it also would cost me quite a bit of money. While trying to make this decision I found myself bouncing back and forth between two different forms of anxiety. On one hand spending the money on this trip gave me a great amount of anxiety, but the thought of not going on this trip produced some major anxiety too in the form of F.O.M.O. For three weeks I agonized over this decision. I knew that I didn’t really have the money to go, but the thought of missing out on what a good time I might have was torturing me. I literarily felt sick to my stomach over it and lost sleep. I got to the point of wishing that I had never even heard about this trip to begin with. I was becoming so exhausted just thinking about it. In the end I decided not to spend the money and not go on the trip. I felt better having actually made the decision, but that sense of F.O.M.O. was still lingering.
I knew that I had to come to peace with my decision and get over my case of F.O.M.O. I realized that what was bothering me was that I was making this decision too big and too important. I had this belief that going or not going on this trip would somehow alter my life. And then I came across one of my favorite quotes “You are exactly where you are suppose to be.” This immediately made me relax and reminded me that whatever I decided was the right choice because it’s my life. The Universe is self correcting and self guiding. If there was something that I was suppose to experience on that trip the Universe would find away for me to experience it in another way. The same goes for anything else I’ve been debating in my head. From that online course, to that seminar, to a night out with friends. Tony Robbins says that no decision should be made out of fear. I would expand that to no decision should be made because of the fear of missing out.
This is not to say that you shouldn’t go out of your comfort zone at times and say yes to opportunities that scare you. But if we said yes to every opportunity that comes our way we would most likely be out every night, away every weekend, broke, tired, and living an extremely unbalanced life. And the stress that is produced by F.O.M.O. can really damage your health. I witnessed first hand how my body reacted to the anxiety I was putting it under. My skin started breaking out, I was getting daily headaches, I felt nauseous, and extremely fatigued. All of that suffering over one little decision!
The next time you are trying to make a decision ask yourself if F.O.M.O. is a factor at all. And then ask yourself if this is a life or death decision. Most likely the answer is going to be no. And before you say yes to something purely out of fear of missing out, remind yourself that there will always be other opportunities. There will be more parties to go to, more trips to take, and more opportunities to learn. Remember that whatever you decide is going to be perfect for you are exactly where you need to be. And if you still find yourself struggling to make a decision take the advice of Marie Forleo who says, “If it isn’t a hell yes, it’s a hell no.” That simple phrase could have saved me weeks of agonizing and I never would have come down with a case of F.O.M.O. to begin with. So remember if you or someone you know is suffering from a case of fear of missing out, there is help.

When I was younger I use to love to read biographies from old hollywood celebrities like Cary Grant, Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, etc… Their lives were filled with engaging stories about the movie business and drama filled personal lives. Not every ending was a happy one that’s for sure, but their lives were far from boring. I always found these books much more intriguing than whatever was on the required summer reading list at school. And to this day I still gravitate towards non-fiction books, finding real life stories way more interesting then any fiction fantasy.
There are a lot of things to stress about in life. Finances, relationships, health, time, family, etc… Depending on what’s going on in your life I am sure you could list 100 more things, I know I could. But here are two things you can stop getting stressed about immediately: the Weather, and Traffic.
It’s been about 2 weeks since I finished my 21 day detox, and I am still slowly introducing foods that I had cut out. In fact I still haven’t had any dairy, soy, or gluten, and nor have I craved it. It’s interesting how a cleanse will reset your cravings. I barely have a sweet tooth anymore and have no desire to eat bread. The only thing I am really craving are lots of veggies, fresh fruit, and green juice. So my diet has remained relatively the same with 2 exceptions; I reintroduced coffee and chocolate ASAP!
I just finished a 21 day mind body detox. I include the “mind” here because any time you are doing a detox the mind is going to get involved. Just as you are cleansing toxins from your body when you are detoxing, you are also cleansing negative thinking and old patterns from your mind. And let me tell you the physical part of this detox wasn’t so bad, it was the mental aspect that had me trippen!